I know, I know, all of the other pick-up sites tell you they don't. And for some time I even believed it. Man was I foolish...Maybe looks are not everything, but believe me looks are important.
We are thought that men and women are very different, but that is not true. Not entirely. Put yourself in the girls shoes. Say you are in a club, or public place and you were to be hit on from all directions by all kinds of people. Now, as a human being, what people would you be more keen to socialize with? Seriously? Of course, the ones society told you are "beautiful". That can be a bummer, but that doesn't make it less true.
As a medium looking guy, former "not that desirable guy" I can confirm this theory. It was a trap. And everyone telling you looks don't matter is either good looking themselves or plain stupid. It is a great setback for everyone to think looks don't matter. Now, I may be opening the Pandora's box here, but I don't care. Everyone should strive to look its best. I am referring to the aspect that you can control of course...there is no point beating yourself up over the things you can't control. But, god damn, there are so many things you can better yourself at. It depends on what you believe really holds you back. Come on, you know...everybody thinks there is at least something that isn't perfect about then, if not, get the hell out of my blog!
Now is that thing in your control? Can you change it? Are you fat? Maybe skinny? Three months at the gym and people will begin to see a new person in your body. Seriously, it will change your mentality as well. But don't stop there. Maybe your teeth are crooked... modern medicine can work wonders. A little time with braces and presto. New man! Also, don't forget about clothes. This is the easiest thing that you can control. You don't need to spend thousands of dollars on your wardrobe. That's insane in my opinion, but everybody with their style I guess. Just be sure your clothes represent you. That they are "your style". Society has already created several "styles" for you, so be sure to pick the one you are, inside, otherwise you will be perceived as someone who is incongruent, and that is unattractive.
So stop believing when a good looking guy tells you "Looks don't matter". I know it may be harsh to hear, but it's for your own good. So what to do? Here is a short list:
1. Stop believing looks don't matter. They do. Just look around you for Christ's sake. Do you believe good looking guys hook up with hot chicks because they both like the same Harry Potter book most? It's fricking obvious. Count how many good looking guy hook up with hot chick and how many not-that-good-looking guys hook up with hot chicks and do the math.
2. Do what you can to improve. Don't beat yourself up about things you cannot change now, and especially about things you cannot change ever, such as your eye color (Jesus, what is it with the obsession about green eyes, brown is also very attractive),height, hair (yes, there are bald people who are attractive through other traits: Jason Statham, Bruce Willis, Vin Diesel, Dwaine Johnson...see a pattern? ... they all are buff).
3. Maybe...lower your standards? Yes, this was something I wasn't so happy to do either. But what is better? Having an average girl who cares about you (maybe even loves you), or beating your own meat, dreaming at the porn stars, which by the way are not 10's, but you think they are after the years of meat pwning.
4. Create your own style, or adopt one that suits you best, that is expressing who you are.
I hope you aren't feeling too down and that you take some action, that is, constructive, of course. If there is only one thing you get out of this post is that society has made it clear who needs to hook up with who, and it is very hard to break that pattern. Some have broken the pattern and those are special cases, the exception that makes the rule stronger.
All of this is true in its entirety for women as well.
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