Listen to me, or why is it good to listen to people around you

"Most of the people around us are nothing but...other people.Their thoughts are other  people opinions, their lives mirror other lives, their passions, nothing but quotations".
Oscar Wilde

I can not write this article, without mentioning all the dream killers, the traitors of ideals that I have met along in my life. People that, without a reason have started to talk bad, to laugh, or to insult others that try to do something different. When everybody knows that the only way of succeeding is doing something different.

You remember the way someone is treated when he has a different idea.
You must remember what happened to Giordano Bruno, when supporting Copernic in the idea that the Earth was round. He was burned, just like other people who "insulted" the general order of thinking to that moment.

When the spanish Inquisition killed people who wouldn't share the belief in God. Or the Crusades. And examples are many.

So it is clear that it is not always better to listen to others, and the many are not all the time right.

But there are times when listening to others is the right thing to do.
For example, when you intend to buy goods, it is clever to listen to others, to learn how did the goods help others, and what is their real worth.
Also, when we try to achieve a goal, we can look for a mentor that already achieved that goal, so we won't have to make the mistakes that they made.

Times when you don't need to listen to other people is when other people talk bad about others, or when envious people try to discourage you. Also, don't listen to people without results. You don't need advice in how to fail at something. You need the best advice in how to succeed.

I want to know your opinion as well.
Write it down in a comment below.

If you are born a man, you need to stick with it.

    Hello again! I'm back after a long absence. Unfortunately I am a student as well as a man, and college has filled up my time more than I would have wanted, making it virtually impossible for me to write on this blog for the last month.
    Anyway, a lot of things happened to me during this time I didn't write, and a few of those things made a big impact with my life. From this few I want to discuss one, for the time being. Fights!
Yes, fights are very well described in the movie "Fight club" from 1999, with Brad Pitt and Eduard Norton. If you haven't seen the movie it might be a good idea to do it right after you read this post. But a movie is still a movie, no matter how good.
    The fight I was involved could have been easily avoided by me, because practically I could have just walked away. It happened like this: It was a friday night (2 am to be more precisely) and I was returning from a pool night with my friend and roommate. We didn't have more than 10 minutes to walk home, but then, from across the road, a guy shout to us:"Hey ladies! Ladies!". I shouted back "Go home! You are drunk!", not figuring how a bearded man such as myself could have been mistaken as a lady. Anyway, that drove him mad, and made him cross the road to us. As he get close to me, I told him politely to go home again, while he is still in one piece. I should mention that I am 1.80m tall and weigh less over 70 kg, so I am not the guy to be very frightened by his stance. Meanwhile, the aggressor was much taller than me, but not necessarily more buff. After a few harsh word I told him to go back from where he came. But he didn't. So I had to punch him. The punch was not full power, but  it made him get back a few feet.Immediately he started bragging about who his uncle was, who his father was, that he was going to search for me and beat me up, blah, blah. Then I told him I was right there, and there is no need for any search. That made him more angry, and drove him closer to me for a series of punches this time. He was lucky with his friend that took him back across the road in tears and blood.
    What is the point of me telling you this and what can you learn from this?
    Well,  first of all, it is very important for you, as a man, to stand up for yourself. It gives you a great moral boost, if you succeed in defending your honor. Winston Churchill said this: "You have enemies? Good! That means you stood up for something in your life!". Not standing your ground is poison to a man soul. Of course you need something to back up your initiative. I am not telling you to fight ten men if you have no idea in closing a fist, and you break your arm by landing a punch, or you miss completely. As a man you need to be ready for anything, as a part of your journey in life.
    Second. If you call someone something that may upset them, be ready for their retaliation. The way the "aggressor" reacted to my first punch was the reaction a little girl has when you take her doll. "I'm telling mom!". You should be responsible for your acts and you alone.
    Third. You need to know how to fight. As a man you can not die and not get in a fight. Sooner or later, someone will want to kick your ass so badly that if you don't know how to defend yourself, he will succeed. Have no mercy! In a street fight mercy is considered a weakness. When someone wants to kick your head in, and you think: "I shouldn't kick him in the knee! That would cripple him for his entire life! He will never walk as a normal person again!", you are going to have a bad time. You need to act quickly and end the fight as fast as you can. A kick in the balls, a kick in the knee, a punch in the nose, a hit in the solar plexus are just a few things that often end a fight. Be sure that you are the one that ends the fight.
    With these in mind, please leave a comment below in which you say when it was the last time you have defended you honor.