Love at first sight means physical atraction at first sight

                                    
        Love at first sight involves that the sense responsible for getting in love is sight, right?
       What can sight tell us about a person we have just met? Well it can tell us that the person is or is not good looking, if it is healthy, if he or she has good genes, if they are sexually attractive,maybe something about body language, and so on. OK. What is sexual attraction? It is nature's way of taking our minds and playing with them so the species can perpetuate. But what does nature want when the main objective is the perpetuation of species? To produce the best individuals it can. What is necessary for that? It has to make sure that the individuals with the best genes procreate. Thus, it need to check the next variables: good genes, physical health, handsomeness, survival skill (in our case social skills).I these genes are passed by, the individuals created will have more chances to reproduce themselves and so on. Bingo! Survival and reproduction. That is all nature knows.
        Now, there is no reason to feel bad, if you have not "procreate" much yourself. This nature ritual, to name it such is not really suiting for humans. And you can see the results everywhere arround you. Single, young mothers left to raise their children after argues or even fights with her husband. Children growing up at an orphanage. I could say that this sexual attraction has only bad things in store for everyone. It blind people and they can not see  in perspective. The omit having in consideration the long run. Of course that is where contraception steps in, but not always...
       So, can you distinguish if a person you have never met before is good for you to mate with, only by taking a glance at them? With a little intuition, and some practice, yes, you can. But that is only the surface of a person. You can not choose, as a woman, a total douchebag to be the father of your son, only because he is handsome, has an active social life, a good job and a huge house. Or, can you? This is where education kicks in, and maybe some experience, but in case of women experience is something that is taken into consideration way to late, if not at all.
      Can a relationship that started with sexual attraction end up to develop based on true love? Of course! Can it end up bad for both? Most of the times it does! It is kind of gambleing if you ask me.
      Love is a wonderful thing, that can not exist without sexual attraction, but that is just the first step.
      Tell me about your recent "love at first sight" adventures in a comment below!  

There is no Absolute Truth

        In the eyes of a religious person, having an abortion is a capital sin. Whereas, for an assaulted woman, in case she got pregnant, abortion may be the only solution.
       Still, everyday I am witness of people mindlessly ignoring and denying every other truth but their own. We, as human beings, are limited. That is the first truth we must accept. Like any other human being, no matter how smart, dynamic or capable you are, you only have 24 hours a day. At a global scale, it doesn't matter how many experience you have, or how many situations you have faced. The conclusions you have come up to, the life lessons you have learned, your emotional experience, are infinitesimal and are called your own reality.
        Your reality is not my reality.
         If you want to respect, to be listened to, and most of all, to be understood, you have to make the first step and respect, listen and understand. If you come in contact with my reality, you only have two options: understand me or make me your enemy. 
        If you try to impose me your reality, I will fight it, because it has no real value to me. You live your life, I live mine. Our experiences are different. 
        I look at religions, and I come to realize that all think that they hold the ultimate truth, and all their religions are wrong. Isn't that so human-like, and not God-like at all? To believe that you are the best and all others are lying and deceiving? That's a laugh!
       The same is with people discriminating others regarding skin color, gender, sexual orientation, culture, habits and a thousand more reasons. The only reasonable thing is to accept, tolerate and understand. You can not fight 7 billion people, can you? If you can't do that for the people that surround you, go mind your own business, life and truth.
        Respect, accept and value others opinion. You have your opinions, value system in two word, like everybody else. It is true that some people stand more firm on their feet and have a stronger value system than others, but everybody has a value system, and deserve a chance to express feelings and emotions.
       We all think that our problems are the biggest, that our life is the toughest and our life experiences are the most meaningful. It is just an illusion! You are not much valuable than the person near you. Until you learn to find yourself in each and every person you come along, you will not understand your role on this Earth. If you were better than all the people on this planet, you wouldn't have been born here, handling the same problems we all do, living and dying the same as we all do. We shouldn't look for answers in our differences, but in our similarities. 
       So, next time you want to criticize someone, put yourself in their boots for a little. Try  and live their experiences. Then think about it. 
       Have a nice weekend! 
        
         

Personality test

              The last few days we started talking about some common personality issues. The knowledge of anything starts with self-consciousness, so today I propose you a personality test. 
         There are 16 main personality types, but there is a swift chance you are a combination of two or more. Here are the types:

           Some people go for a simplified form:

 

              To determine what type you are there is an interesting personality test over here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

              Comment below what type you are, and don't forget to subscribe!

Ultimatum Game - Phychologic Experiment

        Ultimatum Game is the game that makes you poor, depressive and lonely. It is a very interesting experiment that discovered a real time trap in our behaviour, a trap that almost no one is seeing, and falling in it makes people stay unhappy, poor, jealous and so on.
        The experiment consists in giving two people seated at a table a sum of money and letting them split it. Let's say John and Peter sit at the table. They are given $50. One gets to split the money any way that he wants and the other one has to close the deal by either accepting or declining the offer the other one said. If they agree, they get to keep the money. If not, everybody goes home, empty pocket. Hundreds of "Johns" and "Peters" have joined tables.
         The interesting bit is that when our John made a "fair" parting, 50-50, or 60-40, Peter immediately accepted, but when John got a  bit selfish, 70-30 in his favor, Peter didn't accept and they both lost. So, Peter could have made $15 as easy as saying yes, but he didn't. Why? What is curious that this experiment was made in Africa too, in some places where $15 is the average income for a month. And still was the same result as in other countries where $15 is not that much of a sum. 
          Only a clique have accepted the 30 or less percent.
          In our everyday life, we consider a deal to be RIGHT if  we are treated equally, or better than others, if that is not possible, everybody should suffer, so we are equal in suffering. It invalidates us if it doesn't happen this way. There is a little axiomatic war in pride and vanity here, but not as much importance, than our misconception that rightness is should favor us.
         This is why most people are poor, unhappy or depressive. Because they prefer to walk empty handed than seeing other being treated more favorable that they were treated.
          This misconception of ours is not only in the financial  area, but in all life domains: relationships, friendship, fellowship, etc.
          Comment bellow!