Listen to me, or why is it good to listen to people around you

"Most of the people around us are nothing but...other people.Their thoughts are other  people opinions, their lives mirror other lives, their passions, nothing but quotations".
Oscar Wilde

I can not write this article, without mentioning all the dream killers, the traitors of ideals that I have met along in my life. People that, without a reason have started to talk bad, to laugh, or to insult others that try to do something different. When everybody knows that the only way of succeeding is doing something different.

You remember the way someone is treated when he has a different idea.
You must remember what happened to Giordano Bruno, when supporting Copernic in the idea that the Earth was round. He was burned, just like other people who "insulted" the general order of thinking to that moment.

When the spanish Inquisition killed people who wouldn't share the belief in God. Or the Crusades. And examples are many.

So it is clear that it is not always better to listen to others, and the many are not all the time right.

But there are times when listening to others is the right thing to do.
For example, when you intend to buy goods, it is clever to listen to others, to learn how did the goods help others, and what is their real worth.
Also, when we try to achieve a goal, we can look for a mentor that already achieved that goal, so we won't have to make the mistakes that they made.

Times when you don't need to listen to other people is when other people talk bad about others, or when envious people try to discourage you. Also, don't listen to people without results. You don't need advice in how to fail at something. You need the best advice in how to succeed.

I want to know your opinion as well.
Write it down in a comment below.

If you are born a man, you need to stick with it.

    Hello again! I'm back after a long absence. Unfortunately I am a student as well as a man, and college has filled up my time more than I would have wanted, making it virtually impossible for me to write on this blog for the last month.
    Anyway, a lot of things happened to me during this time I didn't write, and a few of those things made a big impact with my life. From this few I want to discuss one, for the time being. Fights!
Yes, fights are very well described in the movie "Fight club" from 1999, with Brad Pitt and Eduard Norton. If you haven't seen the movie it might be a good idea to do it right after you read this post. But a movie is still a movie, no matter how good.
    The fight I was involved could have been easily avoided by me, because practically I could have just walked away. It happened like this: It was a friday night (2 am to be more precisely) and I was returning from a pool night with my friend and roommate. We didn't have more than 10 minutes to walk home, but then, from across the road, a guy shout to us:"Hey ladies! Ladies!". I shouted back "Go home! You are drunk!", not figuring how a bearded man such as myself could have been mistaken as a lady. Anyway, that drove him mad, and made him cross the road to us. As he get close to me, I told him politely to go home again, while he is still in one piece. I should mention that I am 1.80m tall and weigh less over 70 kg, so I am not the guy to be very frightened by his stance. Meanwhile, the aggressor was much taller than me, but not necessarily more buff. After a few harsh word I told him to go back from where he came. But he didn't. So I had to punch him. The punch was not full power, but  it made him get back a few feet.Immediately he started bragging about who his uncle was, who his father was, that he was going to search for me and beat me up, blah, blah. Then I told him I was right there, and there is no need for any search. That made him more angry, and drove him closer to me for a series of punches this time. He was lucky with his friend that took him back across the road in tears and blood.
    What is the point of me telling you this and what can you learn from this?
    Well,  first of all, it is very important for you, as a man, to stand up for yourself. It gives you a great moral boost, if you succeed in defending your honor. Winston Churchill said this: "You have enemies? Good! That means you stood up for something in your life!". Not standing your ground is poison to a man soul. Of course you need something to back up your initiative. I am not telling you to fight ten men if you have no idea in closing a fist, and you break your arm by landing a punch, or you miss completely. As a man you need to be ready for anything, as a part of your journey in life.
    Second. If you call someone something that may upset them, be ready for their retaliation. The way the "aggressor" reacted to my first punch was the reaction a little girl has when you take her doll. "I'm telling mom!". You should be responsible for your acts and you alone.
    Third. You need to know how to fight. As a man you can not die and not get in a fight. Sooner or later, someone will want to kick your ass so badly that if you don't know how to defend yourself, he will succeed. Have no mercy! In a street fight mercy is considered a weakness. When someone wants to kick your head in, and you think: "I shouldn't kick him in the knee! That would cripple him for his entire life! He will never walk as a normal person again!", you are going to have a bad time. You need to act quickly and end the fight as fast as you can. A kick in the balls, a kick in the knee, a punch in the nose, a hit in the solar plexus are just a few things that often end a fight. Be sure that you are the one that ends the fight.
    With these in mind, please leave a comment below in which you say when it was the last time you have defended you honor.

Love at first sight means physical atraction at first sight

                                    
        Love at first sight involves that the sense responsible for getting in love is sight, right?
       What can sight tell us about a person we have just met? Well it can tell us that the person is or is not good looking, if it is healthy, if he or she has good genes, if they are sexually attractive,maybe something about body language, and so on. OK. What is sexual attraction? It is nature's way of taking our minds and playing with them so the species can perpetuate. But what does nature want when the main objective is the perpetuation of species? To produce the best individuals it can. What is necessary for that? It has to make sure that the individuals with the best genes procreate. Thus, it need to check the next variables: good genes, physical health, handsomeness, survival skill (in our case social skills).I these genes are passed by, the individuals created will have more chances to reproduce themselves and so on. Bingo! Survival and reproduction. That is all nature knows.
        Now, there is no reason to feel bad, if you have not "procreate" much yourself. This nature ritual, to name it such is not really suiting for humans. And you can see the results everywhere arround you. Single, young mothers left to raise their children after argues or even fights with her husband. Children growing up at an orphanage. I could say that this sexual attraction has only bad things in store for everyone. It blind people and they can not see  in perspective. The omit having in consideration the long run. Of course that is where contraception steps in, but not always...
       So, can you distinguish if a person you have never met before is good for you to mate with, only by taking a glance at them? With a little intuition, and some practice, yes, you can. But that is only the surface of a person. You can not choose, as a woman, a total douchebag to be the father of your son, only because he is handsome, has an active social life, a good job and a huge house. Or, can you? This is where education kicks in, and maybe some experience, but in case of women experience is something that is taken into consideration way to late, if not at all.
      Can a relationship that started with sexual attraction end up to develop based on true love? Of course! Can it end up bad for both? Most of the times it does! It is kind of gambleing if you ask me.
      Love is a wonderful thing, that can not exist without sexual attraction, but that is just the first step.
      Tell me about your recent "love at first sight" adventures in a comment below!  

There is no Absolute Truth

        In the eyes of a religious person, having an abortion is a capital sin. Whereas, for an assaulted woman, in case she got pregnant, abortion may be the only solution.
       Still, everyday I am witness of people mindlessly ignoring and denying every other truth but their own. We, as human beings, are limited. That is the first truth we must accept. Like any other human being, no matter how smart, dynamic or capable you are, you only have 24 hours a day. At a global scale, it doesn't matter how many experience you have, or how many situations you have faced. The conclusions you have come up to, the life lessons you have learned, your emotional experience, are infinitesimal and are called your own reality.
        Your reality is not my reality.
         If you want to respect, to be listened to, and most of all, to be understood, you have to make the first step and respect, listen and understand. If you come in contact with my reality, you only have two options: understand me or make me your enemy. 
        If you try to impose me your reality, I will fight it, because it has no real value to me. You live your life, I live mine. Our experiences are different. 
        I look at religions, and I come to realize that all think that they hold the ultimate truth, and all their religions are wrong. Isn't that so human-like, and not God-like at all? To believe that you are the best and all others are lying and deceiving? That's a laugh!
       The same is with people discriminating others regarding skin color, gender, sexual orientation, culture, habits and a thousand more reasons. The only reasonable thing is to accept, tolerate and understand. You can not fight 7 billion people, can you? If you can't do that for the people that surround you, go mind your own business, life and truth.
        Respect, accept and value others opinion. You have your opinions, value system in two word, like everybody else. It is true that some people stand more firm on their feet and have a stronger value system than others, but everybody has a value system, and deserve a chance to express feelings and emotions.
       We all think that our problems are the biggest, that our life is the toughest and our life experiences are the most meaningful. It is just an illusion! You are not much valuable than the person near you. Until you learn to find yourself in each and every person you come along, you will not understand your role on this Earth. If you were better than all the people on this planet, you wouldn't have been born here, handling the same problems we all do, living and dying the same as we all do. We shouldn't look for answers in our differences, but in our similarities. 
       So, next time you want to criticize someone, put yourself in their boots for a little. Try  and live their experiences. Then think about it. 
       Have a nice weekend! 
        
         

Personality test

              The last few days we started talking about some common personality issues. The knowledge of anything starts with self-consciousness, so today I propose you a personality test. 
         There are 16 main personality types, but there is a swift chance you are a combination of two or more. Here are the types:

           Some people go for a simplified form:

 

              To determine what type you are there is an interesting personality test over here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

              Comment below what type you are, and don't forget to subscribe!

Ultimatum Game - Phychologic Experiment

        Ultimatum Game is the game that makes you poor, depressive and lonely. It is a very interesting experiment that discovered a real time trap in our behaviour, a trap that almost no one is seeing, and falling in it makes people stay unhappy, poor, jealous and so on.
        The experiment consists in giving two people seated at a table a sum of money and letting them split it. Let's say John and Peter sit at the table. They are given $50. One gets to split the money any way that he wants and the other one has to close the deal by either accepting or declining the offer the other one said. If they agree, they get to keep the money. If not, everybody goes home, empty pocket. Hundreds of "Johns" and "Peters" have joined tables.
         The interesting bit is that when our John made a "fair" parting, 50-50, or 60-40, Peter immediately accepted, but when John got a  bit selfish, 70-30 in his favor, Peter didn't accept and they both lost. So, Peter could have made $15 as easy as saying yes, but he didn't. Why? What is curious that this experiment was made in Africa too, in some places where $15 is the average income for a month. And still was the same result as in other countries where $15 is not that much of a sum. 
          Only a clique have accepted the 30 or less percent.
          In our everyday life, we consider a deal to be RIGHT if  we are treated equally, or better than others, if that is not possible, everybody should suffer, so we are equal in suffering. It invalidates us if it doesn't happen this way. There is a little axiomatic war in pride and vanity here, but not as much importance, than our misconception that rightness is should favor us.
         This is why most people are poor, unhappy or depressive. Because they prefer to walk empty handed than seeing other being treated more favorable that they were treated.
          This misconception of ours is not only in the financial  area, but in all life domains: relationships, friendship, fellowship, etc.
          Comment bellow!