If you are born a man, you need to stick with it.

    Hello again! I'm back after a long absence. Unfortunately I am a student as well as a man, and college has filled up my time more than I would have wanted, making it virtually impossible for me to write on this blog for the last month.
    Anyway, a lot of things happened to me during this time I didn't write, and a few of those things made a big impact with my life. From this few I want to discuss one, for the time being. Fights!
Yes, fights are very well described in the movie "Fight club" from 1999, with Brad Pitt and Eduard Norton. If you haven't seen the movie it might be a good idea to do it right after you read this post. But a movie is still a movie, no matter how good.
    The fight I was involved could have been easily avoided by me, because practically I could have just walked away. It happened like this: It was a friday night (2 am to be more precisely) and I was returning from a pool night with my friend and roommate. We didn't have more than 10 minutes to walk home, but then, from across the road, a guy shout to us:"Hey ladies! Ladies!". I shouted back "Go home! You are drunk!", not figuring how a bearded man such as myself could have been mistaken as a lady. Anyway, that drove him mad, and made him cross the road to us. As he get close to me, I told him politely to go home again, while he is still in one piece. I should mention that I am 1.80m tall and weigh less over 70 kg, so I am not the guy to be very frightened by his stance. Meanwhile, the aggressor was much taller than me, but not necessarily more buff. After a few harsh word I told him to go back from where he came. But he didn't. So I had to punch him. The punch was not full power, but  it made him get back a few feet.Immediately he started bragging about who his uncle was, who his father was, that he was going to search for me and beat me up, blah, blah. Then I told him I was right there, and there is no need for any search. That made him more angry, and drove him closer to me for a series of punches this time. He was lucky with his friend that took him back across the road in tears and blood.
    What is the point of me telling you this and what can you learn from this?
    Well,  first of all, it is very important for you, as a man, to stand up for yourself. It gives you a great moral boost, if you succeed in defending your honor. Winston Churchill said this: "You have enemies? Good! That means you stood up for something in your life!". Not standing your ground is poison to a man soul. Of course you need something to back up your initiative. I am not telling you to fight ten men if you have no idea in closing a fist, and you break your arm by landing a punch, or you miss completely. As a man you need to be ready for anything, as a part of your journey in life.
    Second. If you call someone something that may upset them, be ready for their retaliation. The way the "aggressor" reacted to my first punch was the reaction a little girl has when you take her doll. "I'm telling mom!". You should be responsible for your acts and you alone.
    Third. You need to know how to fight. As a man you can not die and not get in a fight. Sooner or later, someone will want to kick your ass so badly that if you don't know how to defend yourself, he will succeed. Have no mercy! In a street fight mercy is considered a weakness. When someone wants to kick your head in, and you think: "I shouldn't kick him in the knee! That would cripple him for his entire life! He will never walk as a normal person again!", you are going to have a bad time. You need to act quickly and end the fight as fast as you can. A kick in the balls, a kick in the knee, a punch in the nose, a hit in the solar plexus are just a few things that often end a fight. Be sure that you are the one that ends the fight.
    With these in mind, please leave a comment below in which you say when it was the last time you have defended you honor.

There is no Absolute Truth

        In the eyes of a religious person, having an abortion is a capital sin. Whereas, for an assaulted woman, in case she got pregnant, abortion may be the only solution.
       Still, everyday I am witness of people mindlessly ignoring and denying every other truth but their own. We, as human beings, are limited. That is the first truth we must accept. Like any other human being, no matter how smart, dynamic or capable you are, you only have 24 hours a day. At a global scale, it doesn't matter how many experience you have, or how many situations you have faced. The conclusions you have come up to, the life lessons you have learned, your emotional experience, are infinitesimal and are called your own reality.
        Your reality is not my reality.
         If you want to respect, to be listened to, and most of all, to be understood, you have to make the first step and respect, listen and understand. If you come in contact with my reality, you only have two options: understand me or make me your enemy. 
        If you try to impose me your reality, I will fight it, because it has no real value to me. You live your life, I live mine. Our experiences are different. 
        I look at religions, and I come to realize that all think that they hold the ultimate truth, and all their religions are wrong. Isn't that so human-like, and not God-like at all? To believe that you are the best and all others are lying and deceiving? That's a laugh!
       The same is with people discriminating others regarding skin color, gender, sexual orientation, culture, habits and a thousand more reasons. The only reasonable thing is to accept, tolerate and understand. You can not fight 7 billion people, can you? If you can't do that for the people that surround you, go mind your own business, life and truth.
        Respect, accept and value others opinion. You have your opinions, value system in two word, like everybody else. It is true that some people stand more firm on their feet and have a stronger value system than others, but everybody has a value system, and deserve a chance to express feelings and emotions.
       We all think that our problems are the biggest, that our life is the toughest and our life experiences are the most meaningful. It is just an illusion! You are not much valuable than the person near you. Until you learn to find yourself in each and every person you come along, you will not understand your role on this Earth. If you were better than all the people on this planet, you wouldn't have been born here, handling the same problems we all do, living and dying the same as we all do. We shouldn't look for answers in our differences, but in our similarities. 
       So, next time you want to criticize someone, put yourself in their boots for a little. Try  and live their experiences. Then think about it. 
       Have a nice weekend!