Looks F#cking Matter!

       I know, I know, all of the other pick-up sites tell you they don't. And for some time I even believed it. Man was I foolish...Maybe looks are not everything, but believe me looks are important.

     We are thought that men and women are very different, but that is not true. Not entirely. Put yourself in the girls shoes. Say you are in a club, or public place and you were to be hit on from all directions by all kinds of people. Now, as a human being, what people would you be more keen to socialize with? Seriously? Of course, the ones society told you are "beautiful". That can be a bummer, but that doesn't make it less true. 

       As a medium looking guy, former "not that desirable guy" I can confirm this theory. It was a trap. And everyone telling you looks don't matter is either good looking themselves or plain stupid. It is a great setback for everyone to think looks don't matter. Now, I may be opening the Pandora's box here, but I don't care. Everyone should strive to look its best. I am referring to the aspect that you can control of course...there is no point beating yourself up over the things you can't control. But, god damn, there are so many things you can better yourself at. It depends on what you believe really holds you back. Come on, you know...everybody thinks there is at least something that isn't perfect about then, if not, get the hell out of my blog!

       Now is that thing in your control? Can you change it? Are you fat? Maybe skinny? Three months at the gym and people will begin to see a new person in your body. Seriously, it will change your mentality as well. But don't stop there. Maybe your teeth are crooked... modern medicine can work wonders. A little time with braces and presto. New man! Also, don't forget about clothes. This is the easiest thing that you can control. You don't need to spend thousands of dollars on your wardrobe. That's insane in my opinion, but everybody with their style I guess. Just be sure your clothes represent you. That they are "your style". Society has already created several "styles" for you, so be sure to pick the one you are, inside, otherwise you will be perceived as someone who is incongruent, and that is unattractive. 

      So stop believing when a good looking guy tells you "Looks don't matter". I know it may be harsh to hear, but it's for your own good. So what to do? Here is a short list:

1. Stop believing looks don't matter. They do. Just look around you for Christ's sake. Do you believe good looking guys hook up with hot chicks because they both like the same Harry Potter book most? It's fricking obvious. Count how many good looking guy hook up with hot chick and how many not-that-good-looking guys hook up with hot chicks and do the math.

2. Do what you can to improve. Don't beat yourself up about things you cannot change now, and especially about things you cannot change ever, such as your eye color (Jesus, what is it with the obsession about green eyes, brown is also very attractive),height, hair (yes, there are bald people who are attractive through other traits: Jason Statham, Bruce Willis, Vin Diesel, Dwaine Johnson...see a pattern? ... they all are buff).

3. Maybe...lower your standards? Yes, this was something I wasn't so happy to do either. But what is better? Having an average girl who cares about you (maybe even loves you), or beating your own meat, dreaming at the porn stars, which by the way are not 10's, but you think they are after the years of meat pwning.

4. Create your own style, or adopt one that suits you best, that is expressing who you are.

      I hope you aren't feeling too down and that you take some action, that is, constructive, of course. If there is only one thing you get out of this post is that society has made it clear who needs to hook up with who, and it is very hard to break that pattern. Some have broken the pattern and those are special cases, the exception that makes the rule stronger.

      All of this is true in its entirety for women as well. 
      Share if you agree!

      All the best!

Love at first sight means physical atraction at first sight

                                    
        Love at first sight involves that the sense responsible for getting in love is sight, right?
       What can sight tell us about a person we have just met? Well it can tell us that the person is or is not good looking, if it is healthy, if he or she has good genes, if they are sexually attractive,maybe something about body language, and so on. OK. What is sexual attraction? It is nature's way of taking our minds and playing with them so the species can perpetuate. But what does nature want when the main objective is the perpetuation of species? To produce the best individuals it can. What is necessary for that? It has to make sure that the individuals with the best genes procreate. Thus, it need to check the next variables: good genes, physical health, handsomeness, survival skill (in our case social skills).I these genes are passed by, the individuals created will have more chances to reproduce themselves and so on. Bingo! Survival and reproduction. That is all nature knows.
        Now, there is no reason to feel bad, if you have not "procreate" much yourself. This nature ritual, to name it such is not really suiting for humans. And you can see the results everywhere arround you. Single, young mothers left to raise their children after argues or even fights with her husband. Children growing up at an orphanage. I could say that this sexual attraction has only bad things in store for everyone. It blind people and they can not see  in perspective. The omit having in consideration the long run. Of course that is where contraception steps in, but not always...
       So, can you distinguish if a person you have never met before is good for you to mate with, only by taking a glance at them? With a little intuition, and some practice, yes, you can. But that is only the surface of a person. You can not choose, as a woman, a total douchebag to be the father of your son, only because he is handsome, has an active social life, a good job and a huge house. Or, can you? This is where education kicks in, and maybe some experience, but in case of women experience is something that is taken into consideration way to late, if not at all.
      Can a relationship that started with sexual attraction end up to develop based on true love? Of course! Can it end up bad for both? Most of the times it does! It is kind of gambleing if you ask me.
      Love is a wonderful thing, that can not exist without sexual attraction, but that is just the first step.
      Tell me about your recent "love at first sight" adventures in a comment below!  

Express your Feelings

       Say what is on your mind. Lies destroy more than just the truth.
       "Look at that fat lady. Lady, you are fat, because you eat all that garbage all day, because you feel that void inside you." But the void is not in your stomach. It is in your soul. You lack something (love, money, health, etc.) and you think that eating all day will fill that emptiness. "Mister, you are poor, and you cry all day, like that is going to change anything." You are poor because your everyday, every week, every month, actions have led you here.
       A wise man once said: "Doing the things you have ever done will always get you the results you have ever got."
       What have you ever done in order to deserve money? Have you developed special skill in  some branch to deserve to be paid? Have you developed your social skills to deliver better human interaction? No? Then, I am sorry, but no one will give you that money you so badly wish, to buy those thing the media tells you "really" need. But this is another story and I will tell it some other time.
       Still here? Good! This means you are on the right track in discovering your full, alpha personality.
       Now something to say to that girlfriend of yours: "I don't feel like coming this weekend with you at the wedding, even though we are a couple. Don't take it personaly, but I feel like I need to recharge my batteries, because I feel empty inside and I need some time for myself. If this bothers you, you should make a list of hobbies and have yourself some time alone, and stop being this blood thirsty vampire that you are". If she loves you she will not say a thing and do what you told her to do.
       Stop asking all the time for life advice. What should I do if X did that...? What about now, if Y said this to me? Should I go to the bathroom now? Your life is yours, and so it should be. No one is qualified to live your life for you.
       Do what you want to do, say what you feel, go where you want, with who you want,when you want, but remember what I said earlier to the man who cried he is poor, and to the woman that cried she is fat. You are responsible for all that you have became until now. Trust me. You can be the richest person alive if you just made a purpose of this. You have all life in front of you. I don't want to become an "energeticism freak", but it is a matter of directing your life energies in one way to acoomplish a thing. If your energy is scattered in all direction then, congratulations: you have all chances of being that average person the world will forget a few years after he/she dies.
       We live in fear. We fear to tell the truth because we don't like to hear the truth and we assume that nobody does. We think that we harm with our words, when in fact the truth sets us free. If your friends don't accept what you trully have to say, that they are not your friends.
       An alpha personality is always able to tell the truth, no matter what the consequences are.
       What is your truth? Leave it below in a comment.    

There is no Magic Pill

       This is the first of many posts about human nature and human interaction.  As the title of the post says, there is no magic pill in having great human interaction, either with persons the same sex as us, or not. At least I have no knowledge of it been invented yet. Anyway, the result is the same. We don't get to eat a drug and we transform into the best, most charismatic person that ever lived.

        With this out of our way we can move forward into determining what makes an interesting person so, interesting, and where is that magnet that attracts you hid. But first of all I would like to make a few things clear about this blog:
        1. All that I write here is verified information. Either taken from other sources and put to the test, or thing that I have experienced without even knowing other have been in the same situation as me.
       2. This should be a dialogue, not a monologue. After each post you should complete the ideas stated with your own experiences or opinions. If you have a question, ask.
       3. The "Game" hasn't changed in a while (thousands of year)  and the rules will stay the same long enough for you not to be affected. And by "game" I mean this perpetual dance we humans are performing, some better and some not that well.
          4. The moment you decide to read me, you should realize that true change can only come trough hard work. And by that I mean not only reading. The correct proportion is 20% read 80% practice. Sounds much? Not by far. Many charismatic people didn't even have the luxury of others opening their eyes. They had to do it all by themselves. 
       Evolving your personality is a tough  job, but once you realise it takes dedication in order to have an enjoyable "inside" the battle is halfway won.
       So, for starters, write down some questions you have about any human interaction you think you need advice. I will try to write a new article every week, so stay close, and stand tall.