Clubbing...aka, Do it now, or regret it tomorrow

       You think too much, you lose it

      Yesterday I went clubbing with my friend. I know, yesterday was wednesday, but there was this party "Tranceylvania", and me and my friend like trance, a lot. What's the point? Let me get to it, then. Since the beginning of the night, my friend started sharing looks with this 9 1/2 chick across the room. He kinda knew her, because he has seem her before, but they never talked. He told me his intentions, so I tried to help him out, like a good wingman I am. So I wanted to go talk to her and play "Have you met my friend?". But he said "No, bro, I got this!" . Well, I dropped the initiative, and let him do his thing. The girl even came closer to him at the ending of the party, just for him to say ...anything. He didn't. The party was getting to an end and the girl left with some other chick, her fat friend, or whatever.

       When we went home and I asked him "Why? Why not ask her name, or anything?" He couldn't answer. No need to say that my friend is hotter than me. He said he "waited". Waited for what? For her to make the first move? Guess what. Those looks she gave him, and her getting closer, right near him...those were the first moves. He could't even make the third and fourth moves.

       Waiting for the right moment

       I am familiar with this "waiting" as well. The truth is that there is no right moment. Or at least, if it exists at all, it doesn't come very often. There is of course a chance that she will trip, and you will be right there to catch her and save her drink as well, and you can then say "Hi". But do you really want to wait until then? Really? Moreover, if the girl makes the first moves, even if they are subtle, you should go for it. I admit it, I could have hooked them up easily, but I trusted he "got it", so I didn't want to mess up his game.

 

       What I am trying to say is that girls who came at the club with their female friends come to meet guys, maybe even get a boyfriend. And her exchanging excessive stares with you and coming near you, slowly, is as forthcoming as a girl (not a slut) will ever be. Of course sluts are good as well. They will come and rub their asses all over your dick, or take you for a striptease pole. And sluts are good for other things, I don't deny their "utility", It depends what you have went in the club for, getting a girlfriend or a one night stand.

       Make a promise to yourself

      When a girl signals you, you have no excuse not to act. None! So I want you to promise to yourself that   the next time you go out you WILL NOT waste a girls time. Think of it this way. If she glances at you for the whole night, and then gets so close to you, for no apparent reason, she invests into you. She invests time in you, and she expects to get "Profit", if you know what I mean *wink*. She could have invested that time in other boys, but she chose you. That tells you that she considers you the perfect match for her in the whole club. Did you ever think of that? That you could be the main attraction for someone you don't even know? It's really sweet!

       So. I want you to share your similar experiences. Tell what she did, and what you didn't, because you "waited". 

Bald? Be bold!

       Your hair is not what it used to be? Notice how your forehead is getting bigger and your ID photo no longer seems to resemble you as much as it did when you took it? No fear! Look at the bright side (yes, there is  a bright side...actually there are more bright sides than dark).

       Let's take it step by step:

1. Is there anything that you can do about it? Like, really do. There sure are things that you can attempt to try. Like taking "magic pills" , that don't work, or waxing your head with all kinds of solutions (that don't work of course). Or, you can wear a toupee, as many like to call it. Yeah, that will work, and go unnoticed, for like 2 minutes, maybe an hour if it's good. Or even better: get that lighting thingy that you have to brush your hairless head for hours to...nothing.
    So, we can agree that there is nothing that you can do about it, I hope. If not, stop reading and go try one of the "miracles" above.

2. Should you do something about it? Well, believe it or not, there are things that you can do in order to enhance your looks, eventhough you lost most of your hair. The first one would be to shave. Yep! Not daily, but preferably 2-3 times a week. It will give you a sharp, professional look, and when freshly shaved no one will ever know you can't grow hair properly. Think of all the people that have a full head of hair and shave their head just for the looks. People like Michael Jordan, Samuel L. Jackson and Vin Diesel all haven't even began to lose hair when they decided to go for it and shave the melon.

3. You won't believe me until you try it, but after you accepted you are bald, and therefore shaved you head, you will begin to like it. And you know from my other posts that the others are just your mirror. If you are comfortable with yourself, you accept yourself, and you love yourself, others will do the same. In fact, don't believe me! Try it! There is nothing to lose. Shave your head for a few months. If you don't like it, go back to your old looks. Nothing to lose!

4. Use protection. For your head of course. The Sun and the cold will be affecting you much more now that you have nothing to block them. Use hidratating creams to moist the head skin after you shave and don't forget about UV protection.

5. "Do women like bald men?" Yes! Women like bald men! There. Get to work. And if you don''t believe me ask them yourself! The question is equivalent to "Do women like men with mohawks?' Yes! Women love men with mohawks. Even men with emo hairstyle get love. It's not the etiquette that matters. When you go shopping you buy the things you like. Oh! That sounds a bit harsh. What I wanted to say is that there will always be someone to love you, as long as you accept who you are, and if you are bold enough to ask for love! Which is not such a big deal, anyway. Many women want to give their love, but have no one to give it to, just because of men who are too scared to ask for it. YOU ARE A MAN! It is your job to seduce women. If they like you, and trust me, there are, you win. If not...neeext! I've seen some ugly motherfuckers without a penny in their pocket get 10's more than I would have wanted.

6. Give feedback. Tell me ad others about your life. Share and don't forget, bold is sexy, even if you are bald!

Your habits are your destiny

     "We are what we do repeatedly. Excellence is, therefore, not an action, but a habit." - Aristotel

      When you make a thing over and over it becomes second nature. Repetition is the mother of learning, you may have heard. Our habits define our entire future, and it is easy to figure that out. I am just here to make you see it.

      It is very important to realize that the things you do everyday and how you make them, when you add the days up and you add the things you have made, you will have a result.

     It is like a balance. If you put more weight on one side, guess what, the balance will tilt on the side you put the most weight. If you have a bad habit, the balance will tilt that way. If you have a good habit...You get the idea.

     If you like drinking, you become an alcoholic, your liver gets sick and you die. If you enjoy eating junk-food,you get fat, you die of obesity, and you don't even get to meet you grandchildren, if you get to meet your own children...

     

      Everyday you put something in the balance.

      It doesn't matter how many things you've put on the balance. Just the way it tilts. That is the most important thing, and you can feel it right now. You are always aware of your inner balance, but you like lying to yourself more than you know.

      "First of all, we create our habits. Then, our habits create us. Overpower your bad habits, or they will overpower you." - Rob Gilbert

      

      So, habits are the key. Technically, that is what I want to do in this article: to help you create one new, healthy, habbit. That is because I care about you.

      The moment you develop a new habit something very strange, but beautiful happens. You no longer require mental focus to do that. No more energy is needed to get you moving to do this. Let's take the example of brushing your teeth (I really hope you are brushing your teeth after every meal) . Remember how  much you disliked this as a child? Your parents constantly begging for you to brush your teeth? Remember how strange you felt when they were not arround to tell you to brush them? You were like: "Not brushing them once won't make a difference...I'll brush my teeth in the evening." But now, that it has become a habit, you aren't even thinking of not brushing your teeth. It has become second nature.

     And this thing happens with all new habits. It takes about 30 days to form a new habit, and a little more to get rid of an old habit. So in like 40 days you could reinvent yourself. A whole new life, a better life, just with the power of your mind.

     In the first 10 days you will have to outcome the "G-force". The G-force is what I call the comfort zone. You ask yourself: "Why do I have to do this? Who makes me do this? It's so hard...I want to quit. I'll go to gym next month!" If you go 10 days to the gym these thoughts will significantly decrease.

     Day 10 to 20 you will fight resistance. It is not as hard as the first 10 days, but you will have to make some mental effort, and will power will decrease. Something pulls you back. Fight it!

     Day 20 to 30. You begin to acknowledge that the new habit may be good for you, and you need less will power to do that new thing.

     

     Stephen Covey said: "Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny."

     So it all starts with a thought. What do you have in mind? What destiny do you want for yourself?

     Please comment below, and don't forget to subscribe!

     And another thing, before you go. Ask yourself: From the things I've learned today/yesterday/the week before, what ca I put into action right now? Have I done everything in my power to put into action those things? If not, what could happen, and what can I make to progress?

Harsh life conditions make you a better human or an animal?

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
- Nietzsche

So then, I am asking: "What are you doing with all this power?"

The truth is that the way we look at life and at what it throws at us is different to every one of us. I come from a poor family and life wasn't that kind to me as a kid, so I had to get over it. In time things got better and they still get.This made me stronger and better.

But other people, when hit full strength by life, choose to seek refuge in alcohol, or sweets, or smoking, etc. And that doesn't make them any good, or make them better people.

On the other hand, it could drive people to want to harm others.

So, where is the difference? What causes so different reactions in people?

I don't know...

This post is so short because I want it to be a debate.
What effect do tough situations have on your life?
Why do some people turn into criminals and some into people respected by everyone after dealing with the same situations?

Let's talk about it below.

Listen to me, or why is it good to listen to people around you

"Most of the people around us are nothing but...other people.Their thoughts are other  people opinions, their lives mirror other lives, their passions, nothing but quotations".
Oscar Wilde

I can not write this article, without mentioning all the dream killers, the traitors of ideals that I have met along in my life. People that, without a reason have started to talk bad, to laugh, or to insult others that try to do something different. When everybody knows that the only way of succeeding is doing something different.

You remember the way someone is treated when he has a different idea.
You must remember what happened to Giordano Bruno, when supporting Copernic in the idea that the Earth was round. He was burned, just like other people who "insulted" the general order of thinking to that moment.

When the spanish Inquisition killed people who wouldn't share the belief in God. Or the Crusades. And examples are many.

So it is clear that it is not always better to listen to others, and the many are not all the time right.

But there are times when listening to others is the right thing to do.
For example, when you intend to buy goods, it is clever to listen to others, to learn how did the goods help others, and what is their real worth.
Also, when we try to achieve a goal, we can look for a mentor that already achieved that goal, so we won't have to make the mistakes that they made.

Times when you don't need to listen to other people is when other people talk bad about others, or when envious people try to discourage you. Also, don't listen to people without results. You don't need advice in how to fail at something. You need the best advice in how to succeed.

I want to know your opinion as well.
Write it down in a comment below.

If you are born a man, you need to stick with it.

    Hello again! I'm back after a long absence. Unfortunately I am a student as well as a man, and college has filled up my time more than I would have wanted, making it virtually impossible for me to write on this blog for the last month.
    Anyway, a lot of things happened to me during this time I didn't write, and a few of those things made a big impact with my life. From this few I want to discuss one, for the time being. Fights!
Yes, fights are very well described in the movie "Fight club" from 1999, with Brad Pitt and Eduard Norton. If you haven't seen the movie it might be a good idea to do it right after you read this post. But a movie is still a movie, no matter how good.
    The fight I was involved could have been easily avoided by me, because practically I could have just walked away. It happened like this: It was a friday night (2 am to be more precisely) and I was returning from a pool night with my friend and roommate. We didn't have more than 10 minutes to walk home, but then, from across the road, a guy shout to us:"Hey ladies! Ladies!". I shouted back "Go home! You are drunk!", not figuring how a bearded man such as myself could have been mistaken as a lady. Anyway, that drove him mad, and made him cross the road to us. As he get close to me, I told him politely to go home again, while he is still in one piece. I should mention that I am 1.80m tall and weigh less over 70 kg, so I am not the guy to be very frightened by his stance. Meanwhile, the aggressor was much taller than me, but not necessarily more buff. After a few harsh word I told him to go back from where he came. But he didn't. So I had to punch him. The punch was not full power, but  it made him get back a few feet.Immediately he started bragging about who his uncle was, who his father was, that he was going to search for me and beat me up, blah, blah. Then I told him I was right there, and there is no need for any search. That made him more angry, and drove him closer to me for a series of punches this time. He was lucky with his friend that took him back across the road in tears and blood.
    What is the point of me telling you this and what can you learn from this?
    Well,  first of all, it is very important for you, as a man, to stand up for yourself. It gives you a great moral boost, if you succeed in defending your honor. Winston Churchill said this: "You have enemies? Good! That means you stood up for something in your life!". Not standing your ground is poison to a man soul. Of course you need something to back up your initiative. I am not telling you to fight ten men if you have no idea in closing a fist, and you break your arm by landing a punch, or you miss completely. As a man you need to be ready for anything, as a part of your journey in life.
    Second. If you call someone something that may upset them, be ready for their retaliation. The way the "aggressor" reacted to my first punch was the reaction a little girl has when you take her doll. "I'm telling mom!". You should be responsible for your acts and you alone.
    Third. You need to know how to fight. As a man you can not die and not get in a fight. Sooner or later, someone will want to kick your ass so badly that if you don't know how to defend yourself, he will succeed. Have no mercy! In a street fight mercy is considered a weakness. When someone wants to kick your head in, and you think: "I shouldn't kick him in the knee! That would cripple him for his entire life! He will never walk as a normal person again!", you are going to have a bad time. You need to act quickly and end the fight as fast as you can. A kick in the balls, a kick in the knee, a punch in the nose, a hit in the solar plexus are just a few things that often end a fight. Be sure that you are the one that ends the fight.
    With these in mind, please leave a comment below in which you say when it was the last time you have defended you honor.